Great advice

"Don't let someone become a priority in your life when you're just an option in theirs"
[RT @BobSkinstad]

So... I've been thinking about life in the single lane

Then I watched an episode of "How I met your mother"... and learnt this...


The great moments of your life...
won’t necessarily be the things you do,
They’ll also be the things that happen to you
Now I’m not saying that you can’t take action
to affect the outcome of your life,
You have to take action
And you will

But never forget
That on any day
You can step out the front door
And your whole life can change forever

You see, the universe has a plan
And that plan is always in motion

A butterfly flaps its wings
And it starts to rain

It’s a scary thought
But its also kind of wonderful


All these little parts of the machine
Constantly working

Making sure that you end up exactly where you are supposed to be
Exactly when you are supposed to be there
The right place at the right time
And as a result – your life will never be the same


[Ted Mosby - How I met your mother]

this is how I feel today...

adventure...

without challenge, adventure is impossible

the way you look at it...

"It is only with the heart that one can see clearly, for the most essential things are invisible to the eye."

(Antoine de Sainte Exupery- Le Petit Prince)

Life in the single lane

Being single is actually quite fun!

But, this is new for me. I have been in 4 long relationships since I was 19. The first, with the one who I later married after 4 years, and the marriage ended 3 years later. Seven years of my life... now when you're 31, that's a long long time.

The second, third and fourth, lasted 6 months, 2 years and a year in that order. So for about 7 or 8 months since I was 19 I have dated. The rest, I've randomly been on dates and met people in between.


So, now I am feel sort of stuck. Dating. How it works, what doesn't work, what guys want, what they don't want.

What I do know...

1. I know the basic rule - be yourself. I do that well, or at least I think I do!
2. What I want... that I know. I have at least managed to figure that out & what I don't want!

The rest? Remains a mystery to me.

Right now, I'm quite happy to just *be* and to enjoy life in the single lane. I love my life, I love my career, I am passionate about digital media, and I have amazing friends. I always have something to do... fabulous places to go to and awesome people to go with!

But seeing as I seem to be meeting some fun and interesting people... do you have any tips for a singleton?

Life...

Life isn't about how to survive the storm, but how to dance in the rain...

breaking all the rules

sometimes...
I find myself not quite knowing which direction to take...
and then,
suddenly
it all falls into place...

everything
comes together
it all makes sense

and on the first day of spring, where everything is...
perfectly synchronised
and when you feel like the world was against you
you see that it was conspiring for you
and there are new horizons
because the sunset has changed
and the flowers bloom
and the air smells different
and you decide to leave the anchoring past behind
and walk towards what you want
what you desire
what you deserve

and at the end of the perfect day,
when all the rules have been broken
and you didn't know what the outcome would be
the perfect sunset greets you

and in that moment,
you know
that everything is as it should be.