i have a heavy heart today

Life is just disappointing me, and a few friends who are important in my life have let me down. This makes me sad.

the wiser you are...

The wiser you are, the easier life gets.

But then, the happier you are,
the less you need easy,
the faster you can run,
and the higher you can jump...
(tut the universe)

wish upon a star

fortune cookie

a thought

...the further you can journey INWARD the more you will see.

take every chance

Take every chance,
drop every fear.
You'll find yourself,
when you dare to dream...

sometimes love finds you...

"So how does it happen, great love? Nobody knows, but what I can tell you is that it happens in the blink of an eye. One moment you're enjoying your life, and the next you're wondering how you ever lived without them."

~ Hitch

make a wish...

Catch a star if you can ...Wish for something special ...
Let it be me ...

Magic

What plans do you have for your life?

Love... (luv)

When we're together... I know how great it is to be alive!

Perspective

Feeling lost?

Often, how we feel derives from the way we see the world, the way we see ourselves and the way we think the world sees us.

Sometimes your world is turned upside down so that you can see things from a new perspective!

Life in the fast lane

If you are in the fast lane.. make sure you are enjoying the ride!

if you are reading this...

the way he makes me feel

“My heart stopped. It just stopped beating. And for the first time in my life, I had that feeling. You know, like the world is moving all around you, all beneath you, all inside you, and you’re floating. Floating in midair. And the only thing keeping you from drifting away is the other person’s eyes.”

~ Wendelin Van Draanen, Flipped

make every second count

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"For any of us our forever could end in an hour, or a hundred of years from now. You can never know for sure, so you'd better make every second count."

— Sarah Dessen

the colour of love... amazing

the source of the image can be found here

Love makes the world go round...

Change

There are moments in life, when we go through difficult times, and it seems like a journey with little light at the end of the tunnel.... sometimes that light seems like a distant illusion and the light within us is so low, that we can't seem to find a way out.

There are moments when we feel completely alone in a world filled with so many people and so much going on around us, and nothing makes sense, and it seems like no one understands or comprehends the space that you are in.

You feel like you are on a rollercoaster - just when things start looking up, you tumble to the bottom, not sure which way is next.

And in these moments, our insecurity peaks and wanes with each twist and turn, as the journey seems to never end.

But there is light at the end of the tunnel, and with each step you move closer to that place where everything will make sense again.

And in that moment, you realise that this journey has stretched you, and you have learnt and grown and that you are not the same person you were when you entered the tunnel. You have braced the challenges and somehow you managed to get through it all. And when you take an even closer look, you find your inner strength and your courage, you forgot you had, but that got you through.

You are new. You are strong. You have grown.

This is life... a journey. It doesn't wait for you to sort your "stuff" out. This is it.

As you go through challenges and feel like there are moments in life that you just can't get through, remember the last time you were faced with a similar situation and the strength you had deep within you that got you to where you are today and the people that were by your side to support you.

Stay strong - you're not alone.

Image source can be found here

just curious

self esteem check

The quest for success is generally driven by what we perceive the world expects from us. In short, our paradigm for success vests with others rather than being part of who we are. How can we ever be happy when we are motivated by the opinions of others, rather than a sense of self-worth? Such thinking is a slavery or a bondage rather than an expression of self.
(clive harvey fox)

Your self esteem is not eroded by what others say to you, but by what you say to yourself, when the other person has walked away.

To love someone....

To love someone deeply gives you strength....being loved back by that someone gives you courage to go beyond any known limit .

the way you feel

The way you feel about yourself impacts on how you do everything in life. If you feel good about who you are then what you do will be an outside reflection.

people in our lives...

"Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there, to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson, or to help you figure out who you are or who you want to become. You never know who these people may be - but when you lock eyes with them, you know at that very moment they will affect your life in some profound way."

(claire gibson)

Things I learnt this week

People who live only for dessert, very rarely enjoy the main course. And sometimes a meal... is like life. Bon appétit! (tut)

a sunday thought

Once you can ride the wave of desire, it runs its course and subsides. Then you may discover what is deeper than this pulsing energy. Just as the clear, calm depths of the ocean lie still below the thrashing waves, so the heart's pure longing ...to connect is what underlies our passion - John Welwood

Love

"love is not to be found in someone else, but in our selves; we simply awaken it. but in order to do that, we need the other person. the universe only makes sense when we have someone to share our feelings with."

today is your blank page

In all the times past and in all the times to come, there was and never will be, an exact replica of today.

There will never be another day like today. And there will be another man or woman like you. Because you are as different and unexpected as each day. Think of it...

Each day might be measured by time but it actually made up of moments. And it is moments that colour our days and allow us to be the men and woman we are. Like a blank page, the possibilities are endless.

Today is your blank page.

Today is about making choices and living the outcomes. About taking the initiative. It is the rational and irrational. Celebrating our frailties and facing our fears. It is insight and exploration, energy and passion. It is about independence, originality and strength. Today is about discovering direction and relishing the change, creating the things you want. About desires, the present, the future and opportunity!

That is the essence of today. That is the essence of being you.


(Copy adapted from Oggi watches advert | Image source can be found here)

7 Things I recently learnt

You can't give up, looking for a diamond in the rough, you never know, when it shows up, make sure you're holding on, because it could be the one, the one you're waiting on... (lyrics from nickleback gotta be somebody)

I found the one I dreamt of and since we met, I've learnt a few things about myself and about life....


7 Things I recently learnt

• It is better to shoot for the stars and miss than to shoot for the dog manure and hit
• I've learned that you can do something in an instant and your whole life will change forever
  
• It's a lot easier to react than it is to first think
• Two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different
• If you want to cheer yourself up, you should try cheering someone else up
• No matter what the consequences or outcome, always love fearlessly
• A hug is sometimes all it takes to make your soul feel alive again

Great advice

"Don't let someone become a priority in your life when you're just an option in theirs"
[RT @BobSkinstad]

So... I've been thinking about life in the single lane

Then I watched an episode of "How I met your mother"... and learnt this...


The great moments of your life...
won’t necessarily be the things you do,
They’ll also be the things that happen to you
Now I’m not saying that you can’t take action
to affect the outcome of your life,
You have to take action
And you will

But never forget
That on any day
You can step out the front door
And your whole life can change forever

You see, the universe has a plan
And that plan is always in motion

A butterfly flaps its wings
And it starts to rain

It’s a scary thought
But its also kind of wonderful


All these little parts of the machine
Constantly working

Making sure that you end up exactly where you are supposed to be
Exactly when you are supposed to be there
The right place at the right time
And as a result – your life will never be the same


[Ted Mosby - How I met your mother]

this is how I feel today...

adventure...

without challenge, adventure is impossible

the way you look at it...

"It is only with the heart that one can see clearly, for the most essential things are invisible to the eye."

(Antoine de Sainte Exupery- Le Petit Prince)

Life in the single lane

Being single is actually quite fun!

But, this is new for me. I have been in 4 long relationships since I was 19. The first, with the one who I later married after 4 years, and the marriage ended 3 years later. Seven years of my life... now when you're 31, that's a long long time.

The second, third and fourth, lasted 6 months, 2 years and a year in that order. So for about 7 or 8 months since I was 19 I have dated. The rest, I've randomly been on dates and met people in between.


So, now I am feel sort of stuck. Dating. How it works, what doesn't work, what guys want, what they don't want.

What I do know...

1. I know the basic rule - be yourself. I do that well, or at least I think I do!
2. What I want... that I know. I have at least managed to figure that out & what I don't want!

The rest? Remains a mystery to me.

Right now, I'm quite happy to just *be* and to enjoy life in the single lane. I love my life, I love my career, I am passionate about digital media, and I have amazing friends. I always have something to do... fabulous places to go to and awesome people to go with!

But seeing as I seem to be meeting some fun and interesting people... do you have any tips for a singleton?

Life...

Life isn't about how to survive the storm, but how to dance in the rain...

breaking all the rules

sometimes...
I find myself not quite knowing which direction to take...
and then,
suddenly
it all falls into place...

everything
comes together
it all makes sense

and on the first day of spring, where everything is...
perfectly synchronised
and when you feel like the world was against you
you see that it was conspiring for you
and there are new horizons
because the sunset has changed
and the flowers bloom
and the air smells different
and you decide to leave the anchoring past behind
and walk towards what you want
what you desire
what you deserve

and at the end of the perfect day,
when all the rules have been broken
and you didn't know what the outcome would be
the perfect sunset greets you

and in that moment,
you know
that everything is as it should be.

my thoughts on relationships...

some relationships are like this: you order champagne, you get hunters dry...& you think to yourself...well, it's not a black label, so you enjoy it while it lasts...

i say about relationships: if you order champagne & you get the hunters dry send it back & wait for what you want... the taste of bubbly is worth it!

what are u waiting for?

You're waiting for that magical day when someone makes the connection and recognizes who you really are. Maybe they'll first catch the sparkle in your eye. Or perhaps they'll marvel at your insights and the depth of your spirit. Someone who will help you connect the dots, believe in yourself, and make sense of it all. Someone who will understand you, approve of you, and unhesitatingly give you a leg up so that life can pluck your ready, ripened self from the branch of magnificence. Ahhhhhhhhhhh...

Well, I'm here to tell you, your wait is over. That someone, is you.

(from a note from The Universe)

life...

...Living the life of your dreams is a lot like sailing.

You pick your destination, hoist up your sail, make minor adjustments while the journey is underway, and let the wind do all the hard work.

In other words, imagine the end result, do what little you can, make minor adjustments while the journey is underway, and let me blow your mind.

Does love at first sight exist?

an excerpt from female2female blog interview with me today that I would like to share with you...

I often blog about love, and the irresistible desire to be desired irresistibly… Love at first sight… yes, I do believe it does. It has happened to me more than once….But lasting love… that’s a bit harder. Finding the imperfect person, perfect for you, is true love. And when the breathlessness and the promise of eternal passion and romance and that “inlove” feeling is gone… the inconceivable idea that you could ever be apart is what will hold you together.

“The best love is the kind that awakens the soul and makes us reach for more.” (From the notebook).

love yourself...

love yourself
for no one
can be closer
or share more time
with you

be patient
and kind to yourself

value your attainments
appreciate your gifts

let go of the past
retaining only
it's wisdom

remain aware
for you are now

new

love is...

Love is like a mirror.

When you love others, you become their mirror and they become yours.
Leo Buscaglia

it just took a moment...

and then he looked at her..

and she knew... in that moment,

that she had been looked at...

...like never before.

just be... and be loved...

when you know what you don't want... clarify what you want, and walk towards that... be clear and sure about what you want... honour yourself, be who you are. be adored, be seen as you are, be appreciated in the fullness that you are.

Relationships

Relationships.

There are those that open you up to something new and exotic, those that are old and familiar, those that bring up lots of questions, those that bring you somewhere unexpected, those that bring you far from where you started, and those that bring you back. But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you you love, well, that's just fabulous.

Carrie - Sex&TheCity

enjoy every moment...

like windy mornings, starry skies, and old trees, strawberries

and doorbells; coffee, blue jeans, and summertime...

purring cats, the smell of grass, the sunlight in your eyes...

the song on the radio, the smile from a stranger...