Wednesday, September 16, 2009

Life in the single lane

Being single is actually quite fun!

But, this is new for me. I have been in 4 long relationships since I was 19. The first, with the one who I later married after 4 years, and the marriage ended 3 years later. Seven years of my life... now when you're 31, that's a long long time.

The second, third and fourth, lasted 6 months, 2 years and a year in that order. So for about 7 or 8 months since I was 19 I have dated. The rest, I've randomly been on dates and met people in between.


So, now I am feel sort of stuck. Dating. How it works, what doesn't work, what guys want, what they don't want.

What I do know...

1. I know the basic rule - be yourself. I do that well, or at least I think I do!
2. What I want... that I know. I have at least managed to figure that out & what I don't want!

The rest? Remains a mystery to me.

Right now, I'm quite happy to just *be* and to enjoy life in the single lane. I love my life, I love my career, I am passionate about digital media, and I have amazing friends. I always have something to do... fabulous places to go to and awesome people to go with!

But seeing as I seem to be meeting some fun and interesting people... do you have any tips for a singleton?

6 comments:

Prixie said...

i love the line: I'm quite happy to just *be*.

i have been with my S.O. for 8 years. when i went to london last year, it was quite strange to be without him. now a year later and i have returned and initially, it was weird to be with him again.

my point, human nature inevitably adapts. but sorry i cannot give any pointers for being single, but i think you're on the right path: being yourself

Being Brazen said...

Ive also been in constant relationships since 19. I would feel weird being single...but some of my friends who have become single after many years of being "taken" say its kind of like a breath of fresh air...like anything can happen...

Good luck and enjoy...im sure before you know it you wont be single anymore.

hugs*

momcat said...

I became single with 3 young kids not from choice but I did choose to remain single namely because of the 3 kids. As I have got older I have become comfortable in my own skin doing what I want to do when I want to do it. I feel that being yourself is right and that seeking after a partner for the sake of being with someone is looking for trouble. If you know yourself and are not prepared to compromise your ideals, your eyes will be opened to that person who will come your way and will fit into your lifestyle without you having to do some heavy compromising.

Laura said...

My only advice - always carry condomS in your bag (and not just one) cos you really never know what may happen!

I have been single for over 3 years now and I am STILL trying to figure it all out!

mylifescape said...

Thanks Prixie - thats good advice!

BeingBrazen - so you know how it feels to be "unavailable" for such a long time... it's a bid adjustment, but I'm enjoy it for now :)

Thanks @momcat - I'm sure that when the time is right, the right person will come along as you say... I have so much to share with someone, and I love spoiling the person I adore... so let's see... keep you posted ;)

hahahaaa - Laura Laura Laura... thank you sista!! hahaaa

Wenchy said...

Your life always looks fabulous to me from the outside looking in.

I married when I was 17 (no, not pregnant) and it lasted 7 years... I married when I was 25 and it last 7 years.... I've been in a relationship with Noid whom you met now for 20 months.... so yeah, like you, dating is foreign to me.